They really are mine too...

Please understand when asked if I say, "They are all mine" That's what I mean.

I don't mean to argue or to be sarcastic, because of course you know they are mine but.. " who belongs to who really." Innocent enough question I might add...

Well If you get down to it I gave birth to some, some I did not... Do you know what that changes? Absolutely nothing.

For 5 of them I have been there since their first cry... for 2 I have been there most of their lives.. and for 1 I have been there since he came home from the hospital. Do you know who means more to me then the other? None of them... just because I gave birth to this bunch and not this bunch does not mean I love bunch number one more... or bunch number 2 less...

I hear a lot of times how people just don't think they could ever love someone else's kids like their own.. You can and that's the beautiful thing about being human.. it's literally in our nature. If you ever wonder what it would be like to adopt a baby vs giving birth, I can positively tell you it is one in the same. 

Every late night feeding or all night cry session.. every time they learn something new or start to smile, when you realize they know who you are and have their own little bond with each person in the family. When you can tell what each cry means and what they like to eat or how they like to nap... It's the very same thing as the ones that came from your body.

The love is no different and there are not categories for it either.. I do not have a separate love for the birth bunch as I do for the none birth bunch.. It all comes from the same place and is just as strong for each of them...

They all know I would reset their mouth if they don't adjust their attitude and they also know I will go Ham on anyone in a second for each of them.

There is nothing wrong with asking... Just be prepared when you do not hear what I guess people assume to hear... a run down on which is the favorite or the one we just can't stand..

Birth Mom... Step Mom.. Adopted Mom... Other Mother... Bio Mom...

Titles... that's it..

The kids are still my kids... try to tell them different and I won't be responsible for their reactions...